Forty years
Our fortieth anniversary
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Forty years. Together forever no matter what. We've had a lot of no matter what since we married in 1986. A lot of no matter what! We've had financial difficulties since day one. We've dealt with a lot of baggage that we both came into the marriage with resulting from less than ideal childhoods. We were relatively new Christians. We were selfish. We had different ideas on a lot of things. We still do. The fights aren't so do or die now. We don't really fight anymore. It's more likely to be a piddle fight here or there. Those are the little tiffs one has about insignificant things... and of course, tone of voice. ~wink~
Why are we still together? Quite simply, we made a vow to each other and to God. We also agreed, during a terrible time during the beginning of our marriage that we would never say the "d" word. If you never use the word, you don't irreparably damage trust and the relationship. We've known that it was the two of us together no matter what. We've known that separation would just make things harder. We've learned to love each other for who we are and not who we want the other to be or even thought the other was when we married. I've learned that to be married to a dreamer i.e. entrepreneur means that I'm here to hold on for the ride. I've learned to trust in God when I didn't trust the plans my husband made. I'm sure he's done the same with me.
I've learned that in the hardest, most vulnerable times of my life, both God and Lowell are here for me. Pneumonia, childlessness, four c-sections, many hospitalizations, near death pancreatitis, and cancer among other things brought out the protector and provider in my husband. He always rises to the call. May I do so for him if ever he needs it.
Time's up.
Happy fortieth anniversary to my high school sweetheart and one and only husband, Lowell.
Today at the Bentonville, Arkansas square.
I agree lots of working through life together not all a party ♥️Marcie Huff
ReplyDeleteThat's true. The good times are worth it. Knowing that you'll always be there for each other is worth it.
DeleteHappy anniversary. I love your attitude and your 💕
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Sharon!
DeleteHappy anniversary
ReplyDeleteThank you, Cheryl!
DeleteThis is a wonderful tribute to marriage and sticking with it no matter what. So many think it will be all parties, trips, things, etc. Nope. It's staying together through it all. We made that same choice when we were first married. No use of the "d" word and we've kept it. This year will be 48 for us.
ReplyDeleteBlessings and hugs,
Betsy
You are so right, Betsy. We didn't know what we were getting into, but we were determined that, with God's help, it would be together. God bless you and your husband. You encourage me!
DeleteHappy 40th anniversary! Our 55th is next month. Blessings. . .
ReplyDeleteThank you, Vickie. Happy anniversary to you, too. That's marvelous!
DeleteMany congratulations to you both! 40 years together is a gift and something well worth celebrating. xx
ReplyDeleteYes, ma'am, it is a gift. God blessed us by bringing us together young.
DeleteHappy week!
Laura
Happiest anniverary wishes!! And such a wonderful testimony of a God-centered marriage. Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteI have been thinking about your lately.
ReplyDeleteI went into the hospital for a hysterectomy.
I was to be there six hours and then go home.
They found cancer,removed everything.
I came out of surgery too sick to discharge.
They discharged me the next day then readmitted
Me a day later.
I spiked high fevers, they had to do more extensive surgery
On me than they thought.
I stayed in the hospital three weeks.
I missed my 48th anniversary.
I didn't think I'd be going home.
I had sepsis and a horrible abscess cause
by the surgery.
I thought about all you went through
when you had cancer.
I prayed for God to help me.
We live in the country more than an hour
away from the hospital.
My husband drove over two hours a day
every day.
To sit and hold my hands and bring me
fresh fruit and well water
I was unable to handle drinking the chemicals in
The city water.
He did this for weeks. He would bring clean night
shirts and anything for my comfort .
Marriage is not easy for anyone.
But all the struggles you go through together will
either pull you closer together or apart.
The choice is ours.
I realized I didn't miss our 48th anniversary
I watched my husband live out his vows through
the hardest time of our marriage.
God's blessings to you your anniversary.
Love each other no matter what comes.
It's all that is of any true value in this world.
Happy Anniversary to you both...
ReplyDeleteThere are two more virtues I deeply admire in the way you have shared your life with us all these years: your honesty and your patience. You are a true example for the younger generations. You don't try to show a "perfect" illusion, but rather a real life with many difficulties showing that with love and willpower, you can move forward together. Today, sadly, the opposite happens, people pretend to have a perfect daily life, putting their egos above everything else. May you be together for many more years to come. Happy 40th anniversary!
ReplyDeleteOh my goodness, what a beautiful encouraging word. I appreciate it so much. I am only just now getting back to my email. My job is really taking up my time right now. Thank you for staying with me all these years! I love your email address. Hugs! Laura
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