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Sunday, August 31, 2008

Something to Think About...Precedents


Precedents.... What does that word mean to you?

I looked it up on http://www.dictionary.com/. As I was looking for definitions, most were related to law precedents. That tells me it's a pretty strong word. I am most interested in the first definition that the American Heritage Dictionary presented:


"An act or instance that may be used as an example in dealing with subsequent similar instances."

This is the definition that has been a guiding thought for me. In the past, my family has been much more affluent than we are currently. Nevertheless, I have always thought about the precedents that I am setting with my children when we give gifts for celebrate special days and holidays. For instance, even when we could afford it, and wanted to give my children their first bicycles, I would not buy such a gift for Christmas or a birthday. We don't give many big gifts; we never have. 

During the year, I look for gifts that I think they will enjoy. I put them away in a box until their birthdays, Christmas, or an I Love You day. Because I don't give big gifts, they don't expect them. Because I don't give them often, they are thrilled when they receive one.
We are smack dab in the middle of birthday season at our house. All three of my little ones were born within three weeks of each other.

Last week, my daughter turned 7, I spent a grand total of about $8.00 at yard sales, over the last few months, for her gifts. She likes Winnie the Pooh. I was blessed to find a Pooh jewelry box, a Pooh plate, and Pooh pencils, along with some other things. Her big wish was for a jump rope. God so graciously provided a new one for her. She was so happy and so thankful.

This week, my son turned 9. I spent a total of about $5 on his birthday gifts. We were blessed with a big box of Hot Wheel tracks that we gave to the kids about a week ago. Michael is enjoying it so much. He asked for Hot Wheels, he actually requested that brand, for his birthday. So, off to Dollar General for a shopping trip. His sister and I found five of the coolest Hot Wheels cars and wrapped them up. Each of our family chose one to give to him. I also had a top and a beanie baby hedgehog for him. To make it extra special, my oldest daughter hid the gifts. She and my oldest son then made clues for Michael to follow to find his gifts. Periodically throughout the day, I would say, "It's time!"; and, we would wait as he hunted for a gift.  He had so much fun!

The point to all this is that we must be careful of the precedents we set. Christmas is coming. It may be time to set a new precedent for gifts. If we talk with our children and relatives ahead of time, maybe we can make better choices that will allow us to enjoy the season, and the Savior, more this year.
See my sidebar for a countdown to the Christmas season. I find that after December 1st, we're too busy or rushed to really think out the preparations; that's when things just happen.

Let's think ahead, plan ahead, and do ahead this year.

God bless you!
Laura
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May I suggest?

Friday, November 23, 2012

Christmas Gifts for Children... Precedents, Disappointment, and Gratefulness


I heard some mothers talking the other day about how their children were disappointed when they didn't receive a lot of gifts for Christmas.  It saddened me.  I have a word that has guided my gift giving with my children.

Precedents.... What does that word mean to you?

I looked it up on http://www.dictionary.com/. As I was looking for definitions, most were related to law precedents. That tells me it's a pretty strong word. I am most interested in the first definition that the American Heritage Dictionary presented:
"An act or instance that may be used as an example in dealing with subsequent similar instances. "
This is the definition that has been a guiding thought for me. In the past, my family has been much more affluent than we are currently. Nevertheless, I have always thought about the precedents that I am setting with my children when we give gifts for celebrating special days and holidays. For instance, even when we could afford it, and wanted to give my children their first bicycles, I would not buy such a gift for Christmas or a birthday. We don't give many big gifts—we never have.

During the year, I look for gifts that I think they will enjoy. I put them away in a box until their birthdays, Christmas, or an I Love You day. Because I don't give big gifts, they don't expect them. Because I don't give them often, they are thrilled when they receive one.

Does this mean my children are disappointed with their Christmas gifts?  On the contrary, they are happy with what they receive.  Thrilled in fact. 

When we don't set a high precedent of expectation, our children are free to be grateful for the gifts they do receive.  They can truly enjoy their gifts without thought of cost or quantity. 

I love my children.  I am not required to give them gifts.  I want to give them gifts.  They know that.  They are thankful and enjoy the gifts because they know I am giving them out of love.

Just something to think about...

Blessings from Harvest Lane Cottage,
Laura
Keeping it simple for our Savior

P.S. Avoiding network cartoons helps since they don't see so many commercials.

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May I suggest?
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Monday, December 2, 2024

Just Something to Think About...Precendents and Children's Gifts


Christmas 2023

Hello everyone! 

    Christmas time is upon us. I wanted to share something that I wrote about a long while ago when my children were young. 

    I once heard some mothers talking about how their children were disappointed when they didn't receive a lot of gifts for Christmas.  It saddened me.  I have a word that guided my gift giving with my children.

Precedents.... What does that word mean to you?

    As I was looking for definitions, most were related to law precedents. That tells me it's a pretty strong word. I am most interested in the first definition that the American Heritage Dictionary presented:
"An act or instance that may be used as an example in dealing with subsequent similar instances."
    This is the definition that has been a guiding thought for me. At times, in the past, money has been tight, and some years not quite so tight. Nevertheless, I always thought about the precedents that I was setting with my children when I chose gifts for celebrating special days and holidays. For instance, even when we could afford it, and we wanted to give our children their first bicycles, we didn't buy such a gift for Christmas or a birthday. We don't give many big gifts—we never have. The receipt of their bikes was an event in itself.

During the year, I look for gifts that I think they will enjoy. I put them away in a box until their birthdays, Christmas, or an I Love You Day. Because I don't usually give big gifts, they don't expect them. Because I don't give them often, they are thrilled when they receive one.

Does this mean my children are disappointed with their Christmas gifts?  On the contrary, they are happy with what they receive.  Thrilled in fact. 

When we don't set a high precedent of expectation, our children are free to be grateful for the gifts they do receive.  They can truly enjoy their gifts without thought of cost or quantity. 

I love my children.  I am not required to give them gifts.  I want to give them gifts.  They know that.  They are thankful and enjoy the gifts because they know I am giving them out of love.

Just something to think about...

Blessings from Harvest Lane Cottage,
Laura

Friday, October 24, 2008

Just Something to Think About...Christmas Gifts

What if...

we didn't give any gifts that we felt obligated to give...

we took the time to make something for those we love...

we refused to buy anything made in a factory or overseas...

we limited ourselves to one gift per person....

Would our gift giving habits change?

Would that be good?

Just something to think about....

Laura
Moving toward Simplicity
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May I suggest?
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Monday
Mom's the Word - Good Morning Monday

Saturday, August 1, 2020

Weekend Reading ~ August 1, 2020


Just a few things I thought you might enjoy reading this weekend....



Friday, October 15, 2021

Thinking Ahead to The Holidays

 


Good day or evening to you dear reader!

 I just put in my Walmart grocery order for the week. Just before hitting checkout, I added the items needed to make my family's favorite green bean casserole recipe for Thanksgiving. Early? Yes. But. 

 There are two reasons that I ordered the items now. First, I don't have money saved up for Thanksgiving dinner at this point. This year, I plan to order a few items I need each week in order to spread out the cost of a very expensive meal. Second, with all the uncertainty in the availability of items this season, I want to do my best to prepare early not only for Thanksgiving, but after that, the Christmas season as well.

 Last week, I visited a small thrift shop in my town and found a set of cooling racks new in the package for just $3. I snatched them up. They will make a nice Christmas gift. Over the years, I have done much of my shopping second hand. I've found some nice sweaters, shirts, and a brand new wool coat ($2) among other things.  My family knows it, and they still enjoy the items I purchase for them.Thrifty is not just an idea for me. It is a way of life. Over the last year or so, with four surgeries and covid, I've become a bit lax; but, I sense a season coming when my thrifty ways will not just be helpful but necessary.

 I don't have a well stocked pantry. I am beginning now by buying just a few extra items at a time. I know from experience that God always provides, but I need to do my part. 

 I am also busy making birthday and Christmas gifts. I am knitting items using yarn that was given to me supplemented by a few skeins that I've purchased. I also have some sewing to do. It's time to start making my lists and getting busy with my kringling! I suggest you do the same. 

 Well, enough for now. I'm making a thrown together quiche for supper tonight with the items I have on hand.

 What are your thoughts about the coming season? Are you feeling a need to prepare what you can early?

Blessings,

Laura of Harvest Lane Cottage

Doing what I can with what I've got on a shoestring budget


May I suggest?

Christmas Gifts for Children... Precedents, Disappointment, and Gratefulness

Old-Fashioned Oatmeal Cookies


Saturday, August 19, 2017

A Nothing Thrifty Week at Harvest Lane Cottage #111

Welcome to another 
Thrifty Week at Harvest Lane Cottage!

Each week I share ways I've saved money, my thrifty and frugal projects, and my blessings from God. 

A Thrifty Week at Harvest Lane Cottage

I am so glad you dropped in for a visit today—or tonight!
Please say hello! I'm always looking for new blog friends!
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Dear Reader,

  I've done absolutely nothing thrifty this week! While at chemo, my friend went out to McAlisters and got me a delicious french dip sandwich and cup of broccoli soup. On chemo days, I'm tired, but I feel good enough to eat. ~smile~

  Thank you all for praying! I feel pretty good for chemo week. I know it's because so many are praying. I also took a permanent marker with me to chemo. Jesus is the name over every name! I wrote Jesus right on the Perjeta chemo bag! That's the one that's been making me so sick. So far, so good!

God bless!
Laura

Just had to share this photo of my Annie and me back in the day.
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A Verse for You
“Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, 
whose mind is stayed on thee:
because he trusteth in thee.
Trust ye in the LORD for ever:
for in the LORD JEHOVAH
is everlasting strength.” 
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Here's my thrifty week including blessings I received.
  • I always save by shopping at Aldi instead of Walmart.
  • We ate out of the cupboards and freezer most of the week. That's always a saver. 
  • A dear reader, Sandra, sent me a bag full of cotton yarn in fresh, lovely colors. Oh, and she sent a gift card to my favorite Christian restaurant Chick-Fil-A! Love it! Thank you!
  • My dad and Annie brought us meat for the freezer and some other supplies. Thank you! I won't have to worry about meat for awhile thanks to you Dad!
  • I bought sandwich fixin's so the kids wouldn't eat out so much.
  • I received a mysterious box with a little lamb inside! The invoice said only Elizabeth with my address! This was the yarn bowl that I showed y'all a few weeks ago.  It's even cuter in person! Thank you to the mysterious Elizabeth! That was so sweet of you! 

That's my thrifty week.

What are you doing in your home this week?

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ღLauraღ
...doing what I can with what I've got
where I am on a short shoestring budget!

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What do you want your Christmas to look like?

Christmas Gifts for Children... 

Precedents, Disappointment, and Gratefulness


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Monday, August 10, 2015

My Daybook August 9, 2015

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Dear Ladies, 
Hello again! I am honored that you are interested in my daybooks. Each week I wonder at the many ladies that come and visit my humble blog. I am thankful. May God bring you strength, patience, hope, and perseverance during the days to come as many of us are preparing school lessons, preparing to send our children to school, or even sending a child off to college or trade school. The summer heat has been beating hard, but in another month or so, it will have to yield to the cooler temperatures of September. Fall is coming ladies! Hang on!

Outside my window...
It's pouring down rain. I was awakened early this morning by thunder rumbling. I love rainy mornings and rainy afternoons... well, as long as there isn't too much, I just love rain! Why? Well, actually, I remember years ago, waiting at the high school for my mom to pick me up after choir practice, and watching the rain pouring down through the window. I thought it was miserable. It had been raining a lot that spring. Suddenly, I just decided to love rainy days. It was a choice. Now I do! Rainy days are cocoa, baking cookies, reading a good book with the kids... at least that's how they used to be. Times have changed a bit as the kids have changed, but I still enjoy them.

I am thinking...
I need to continue to plan for the coming school year.
Historic Cave Springs Schoolhouse
I am thankful...
I have a home to keep me out of the rain and a minivan to drive in the rain.

In the kitchen...
I just might make a batch of cookies this afternoon.

I am wearing...
old clothes. I'll need to change if I go out. 

I am creating...
my dress. That's about it. I should be able to share a photo by next week if all goes well. I know, I said that last week! ~smile~

I am going...
Possibly nowhere! The rain is so hard, my son may not have to work this afternoon. His morning job already cancelled.

I am wondering...
where the money for school books is going to come from... oh yeah, God!

I am reading...
Trim Healthy Mama...still...it's over 600 pages.

I am hoping...
to post a few reviews this week. I'm getting all caught up.

I am looking forward to...

I am learning...
more about the time of Moses in Egypt and about the Exodus.

Around the house...
I've got the general cleaning up that always needs to be done after a busy weekend. I also need to do some  a lot of laundry. I can't say how much I'll get done, but I must make progress.

I am pondering...
and praying for breakthrough for someone I love deeply.

A favorite quote for today...
“The real things haven’t changed. It is still best to be honest and truthful; to make the most of what we have; to be happy with simple pleasures; and have courage when things go wrong.”
Laura Ingalls Wilder

One of my favorite things...

A few plans for the rest of the week:
preparing for next school year, sewing my dress, a day of fun with my kids Wednesday if all goes well. We didn't get a summer break this year.

A peek into my day...
Amy modeling the apron she made using the apron
Roxy from Living in Faith and Fun made for me. Thanks Roxy!

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May the God of Shalom peace, 
nothing missing, nothing broken, nothing lacking 
bless you as you seek to love Jesus 
with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength.
Laura
Happy at Home
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May I suggest?

Christmas Gifts for Children... Precedents, Disappointment, and Gratefulness

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Thursday, June 20, 2013

Forty Ways to Use It Up, Wear It Out, Make It Do, or Do Without


Dear Readers,

Hard times are upon many of us.  I've been trying to Use it Up, Wear it Out, Make it Do, or Do Without for several years now. Here are some of the things I've done.


Ways to USE IT UP:

1. Toothpaste- Take the end of your toothbrush and slide it along the toothpaste tube, pushing all the toothpaste up toward the opening to get out all the last bits. If you're at the end and want the very last bit, open the end with scissors and just put your toothbrush inside. You'll get a few more brushings out of the tube.

2. Lotions- If you have body lotion or baby lotion setting around unused, you can use it for shaving lotion. I just put some in my hand, add a bit of water from the faucet and spread it on my skin. The razor slides smoothly. The same is true for unused hair conditioner.

3. Lipstick- Use a lip brush or cotton swab to get the last bits out of the container.

4. Unmatched dishes-either your own or garage sale finds. Use these to give food gifts to neighbors or friends. We have had single neighbors who really appreciate a single serving of soup or whatever meal we're having. Using the mismatched items takes the worry away about getting your dishes back. When they're returned, it's just an added blessing.

5. Oftentimes, I have leftovers that I like to try to remake into something else. Soup's especially good for this. Leftover meat and gravy makes a great soup base.

6. If you have leftover bottles of cleaning supplies, use them!

7. Declutter and sell at yard sales.

8. Declutter your bookshelves and swap on Paper Back Swap. Please mention me, lauraofharvestlane, as referring you.
Trade Books for Free - PaperBack Swap.


9. Sell clothes at consignment shops.

10. Sell other things on ebay.
Ways to WEAR IT OUT:

11. Tear up old towels to use as rags.

12. Wear those old tennis shoes in the creek or to mow the lawn.

13. Wear old clothes around the house; save your nicer things for going out.

14. Wear used clothes from yard sales, thrift stores, or resale stores.

15. Pass clothing down to younger children or to friends. Accept donations, too!

16. Patch those jeans! Put a pretty patch over a stain on a dress or blouse.

17. Let down the hem on your girls' dresses. If it's worn, add some rick rack, flat lace, or fancy machine stitching.

18. Put a ruffle around the bottom of dresses that are too short, or around legs of boys' shorts to make them hand-me-downable to girls.

Ways to MAKE IT DO:

19. I have brushed my teeth with baking soda sprinkled on my wet brush. I have also poured a tiny bit of peroxide over my toothbrush. I've not tried combining them yet.

20. I've used my lipstick as blush. Dot it on; then blend, blend, blend.

21. Cut up old clothes or sheets into your preferred napkin size. Zig-zag stitch or hem the edges. Fold them and leave them in a basket on the table or counter. It works for baby receiving blankets, too.

22. When I make jelly, I use an old pillowcase that is clean and lint free instead of a jelly bag to hang my fruit mixture in to strain it.

23. Remake used or old clothing by: adding pretty patches or yo yos, dying the cloth, embroidering by hand or machine around edges or wear lines where a dress or pants were let out, or adding a ruffle or lace to make it long enough and fresh.

24. The most romantic dinners that my husband and I have had since we were married were those at home. I'd feed the kids and put them to bed early. Then, I'd either prepare something for us; or, we'd eat take out. Sometimes, we'd eat at the kitchen table or dining table, or even at a little table in our bedroom. When we lived in a second floor apartment, I put a tiny round table and two chairs on the balcony. Each time I'd use a nice tablecloth, candles, china or nice dishes, and nice glasses or stemware. Add soft music; and, you have a wonderful setting. Give it a try!

25. You can clean a lot of things with baking soda and/or vinegar. Do some research.

26. Old baskets can be had for a song at many yard sales. You probably have some on hand. They can be spray painted for an updated look or to put goodies in for a gift.

27. Mismatched dishes in a color scheme, from yard sales, look pretty when set on a lovely table cloth. I'm collecting white dishes.

28. A sheet will work for a tablecloth. A two yard length of fabric hemmed at the ends can also make a tablecloth for many tables.

Ways to DO WITHOUT:

29. Don't go shopping for entertainment. Stay away from the mall and online shopping. It's a whole lot easier to do without the latest greatest if you don't go shopping for fun.

30. Stay home. Gas is a luxury these days, so limit trips.

31. Combine trips when you do need to go out. We have to go to a nearby city for some things we need. I like to combine everything I can think of that I need to do in that city on that day.

32. Use a bicycle, if you have one.

33. Invite friends for a potluck. Share the cost of the meal by asking others bring a dish to share.

34. The fewer ingredients in a recipe, the simpler and more cost effective it usually is. Steak is a notable exception to this rule. ~smile~

35. Rethink why you eat. Really, it's just to fill your tummy and to give you nutrition. Rice and beans can do that just as well as meat and potatoes.

36. Always think about what precedents you are setting with your children. A new bike for a birthday or Christmas sets a high precedent for next year. Designer tennis shoes or clothes set a high precedent for next year.

37. Don't allow your children to watch Saturday morning cartoons. The commercials are designed to make your children into gimme monsters.

38. Stay away from toy stores and toy aisles. Don't let your little darlings see what other accessories there are to go with their toys!

39. Stay away from craft and fabric stores! Eek! I knew you wouldn't like that one!

40. Do a Bible study on contentment. "Do not covet your neighbor's______. You fill in the blank.

May God bless you as you journey along this life using it up, wearing it out, making it do and doing without... CHEERFULLY! That part can come only from God!

Blessings,
Laura of Harvest Lane
Happy at Home



Monday, September 11, 2017

Happy Homemaker Monday and My Daybook September 11, 2017


Dear Ladies, 

Hello again! I am honored that you are interested in my day books. Each week I wonder at the many ladies that come and visit my humble blog. I am thankful. 

Over the years, I've linked my day books with The Simple Woman, and later, I changed format and linked with Happy Homemaker Monday. Right now I feel I need simplicity, so I'm going to keep it simple and easy.

May God bring you strength, patience, hope, and perseverance during the days to come as many of us are still adjusting to preparing school lessons, sending our children to school, or even sending a child off to college or trade school. Still more difficult, many are facing the consequences of natural tragedies which have occurred or are currently unfolding.

My thoughts have been with my Cousin Gloria in Florida all weekend. I've prayed often. She's in northeastern Florida, and she and her husband decided to stay put. As of 3 a.m. this morning, she had lost power, but they are safe. My prayers are for those in the path of Hurricane Irma, those who are in the aftermath of Hurricane Harvey, and with those of the northwest and west who are facing the wildfires. 

Sometimes it just all seems like too much, BUT GOD.


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Remembering 9/11
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Outside my window...
The sky is growing light, but I cannot yet see if it's going to be cloudy or clear. The grass is much greener, as are the trees, than they usually are for September. No doubt, that's because of our cooler summer.

I am thinking...
I will be so glad when I recover from this chemo. I wonder what the next step, surgery and recovery, will be like.

I am thankful...
I have a safe place to live.

In the kitchen...
I have leftover beans and rice that I made for lunch yesterday. It's one of Briana Thomas' recipes. Lowell and the girls were home for lunch. We added low-fat sour cream, Pace Picante Sauce, tomatoes, and green pepper on the side. I also added a small bit of cheddar cheese mixed in. The consensus was that it needed to be spicier. They suggested added Rotel type tomatoes or green chiles or maybe even taco seasoning.

I am wearing...
I'm still in my pink and white nightgown. My husband got up and left early for work. I've been having trouble sleeping, so I listed to Bible on YouVersion for awhile, then I got up to come and write to you.

I am creating...
I finished a chartreuse green dishcloth last night. I just need to sew in the ends. I'm not feeling very creative right now.

I am going...
I'm not doing much this week. My daughter was invited to a KC Royals baseball game, so I'm going to take her to her friend's house later this morning. This is one time that I'm thankful for the flexibility of homeschooling. She may not get another opportunity like this.

I am wondering...
what the rest of this year is going to look like for our family. I need surgery and radiation. My husband also needs knee replacement surgery. I don't know how it's all going to work out.

I am reading...
The Farmer's Bride Collection. It's a collection of short stories. I find that I wish the stories were developed into full length novels. 

I am hoping...
that Hurricane Irma continues to decrease in strength. I believe that all the prayers of the saints on Sunday made a big impact.

I am looking forward to...

I am learning...
I cannot power through this fatigue that I'm feeling. I don't have any choice but rest. 

Around the house...
I've got the general cleaning up that always needs to be done after a busy weekend. I also need to do some laundry. I can't say how much I'll get done, but I must make progress.

I am pondering...
not much right now truthfully.

A favorite quote for today...



Favorite post this week... 

One of my favorite things...

A few plans for the rest of the week... rest and assessment on Friday to see if my blood counts are up or down. If I get some energy, I may try to do a bit of decluttering and putting things away in preparation for minimal fall decorating. Truthfully, it will depend on how much help I get this year.  The kids are pretty busy these days.

A peek into my day...
My last chemo day with nurse Laura and
my faithful companion Rebecca of
Rebecca's Hearth and Home


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May the God of Shalom peace, 
nothing missing, nothing broken, nothing lacking 
bless you as you seek to love Jesus 
with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength.
Laura
Happy at Home
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P.S. I am reading all of your comments. Your prayers and words of encouragement these last couple weeks have buoyed me up. 
Thank you for being patient with me. I'm still not replying unless someone asks a question or requests it. Right now it just seems to take too much energy. 

Hugs to you all!
Laura

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May I suggest?

Christmas Gifts for Children... Precedents, Disappointment, and Gratefulness


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